A study followed 168 couples for over 13 years, right in their wedding day.
Being overly affectionate at the first few years of marriage would be an indication a few will divorce afterwards, study finds.
The main reason is that level of romantic bliss is tricky to keep.
Couples that start out too hot and heavy tend to become disillusioned.
It is like beginning a marathon by sprinting — you are going to run out of puff.
Couples that stay together frequently have a less extreme love in the first couple of years of marriage.
The conclusions come from a study of 168 couples that have been followed over 13 decades, right from their wedding day.
The investigators looked at what called marriages would end quickly and what signals indicated it would break down at the long-run.
The study’s authors write:
“As newlyweds, the couples who divorced after seven or more years were almost giddily affectionate, displaying about one third more affection than did spouses who were afterwards happily married.”
In marriages that broke quicker, the seeds of discontent were very early — certainly within the initial two months.
Couples who divorced within two years have been at each other’s throats from the beginning.
“The results provide little support for the idea that emergence of distress (e.g., raising negativity) early in marriage contributes to marital failure but rather demonstrate that disillusionment — as reflected in an abatement of love, as a decrease in overt affection, and a lowering of the certainty that one’s partner is reactive, and a gain in ambivalence — distinguishes spouses headed for divorce from individuals who set a steady marital bond.”